A Successful Relationship by Melissa J Grom, MA ...

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There are 2 things that every relationship will thrive on ? EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT!!

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?EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT indicates a successful relationship ? a successful choice of a life partner!!

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When I write about EQUALITY, I write about emotional EQUALITY ? where each partner is able to give and receive, as well as, communicate clearly, concisely and comprehensively ? without being needy, demanding, weak or controlling.

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I also write about holding each other in EQUAL respect ? where each partner values what the other partner brings to the relationship ? where one person?s strength is a good match for the other person?s ability to thrive ? where both partners value what the other partner has to offer.

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An EQUALITY ? where neither partner has to carry the other partner because both partners are capable on a physical, financial and emotional level; and each partner achieves all three of these levels throughout their relationship.

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When I write about ENHANCEMENT ? I clearly mean that each partner is physically, financially and emotionally balanced on their own ? their lives are fulfilled without anyone else needing to be there, yet when they are together their lives are even better than before.

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ENHANCEMENT ? is when neither partner is dependent or co-dependent ? they are each strong, capable individuals who come together to enhance what they are already enjoying.

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ENHANCEMENT ? comes from a place of security, a place of satisfaction, a place of knowledge, a place where both partners are able to exist successfully alone yet where each person is enhanced by the other.

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Most relationships ? most fairy tales ? most marriages ? are built on a need to own another person, on a desire to control the actions of another, on a conditional premise which is based on reliance and not on a true ENHANCEMENT.

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A relationship built on EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT ? does not need to be labeled, it does not need to be co-dependent, it does not require lifelong conditions or ceremonies, it clearly requires two individuals who are extremely capable alone and who come together to create something even better.

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How is a relationship built on EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT??

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Try this and apply it to your life ?

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If I play tennis with a seven year old, I have to tap the ball over the net, I have to make sure that the ball is placed close to the player, I have to lessen my game in order that the seven year old might possibly perhaps hit the ball back over the net (even though he will probably smack it into the net, out of the court, or at my head), and therefore the game of tennis I play is not much fun for me, in fact it quickly becomes a chore as I lower my standards more and more to accommodate the abilities of a seven year old (or lack thereof).

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However, if I were to play against someone who is better than or equal to my playing standard, I have to raise my game in order that the rallies are fun and exciting, in order to keep up the enjoyment of each player, in order to be equal to the partner I am playing with. When I play tennis with this person I have met my match, I am constantly thinking, strategizing, excelling, increasing my performance to keep the game alive and thriving, and by the end of the set I have become a better player (as have they) because we each gave it our all, and we each took what was offered in the spirit it was intended.

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The moral of the story is that you never need to lower your standards to accommodate someone else?s relationship issues.

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Certainly, you need to communicate and work together, yet you never need to compromise your abilities to be in a relationship with someone who is not capable of matching you with theirs.

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EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT ? a fair game well played.

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EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT ? a good relationship well lived.

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EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT ? a better way to love.

Do you want, need and desire to be in a relationship where you have EQUALITY and ENHANCEMENT?? ?Do you feel that you are pleasing your partner and sacrificing who you are in your current relationship?? ?I can help you achieve the relationship you want, need and desire ? Use the contact page to schedule a complimentary Life and Relationship Coaching Strategy Session!!

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